time management

i read a column from the washington post the other day by carolyn hax (tell me about it) titled, "why don't friends with kids have time?" I'm not sure of the date of the article and couldn't find it when i looked  for it. basically the column talks about how friends change once they have kids and all of their time is spent on the kids and not the friendships that were in place before.

i agree that changes happen but i know that when i didn't have pbs, i was cautious about when to call a friend for fear of waking the kid(s) or bothering my friend while she was busy with whatever. i would send an email instead of call. sometimes that was frustrating because no response would come. i now understand that when you have a free minute you just want to sit and do nothing for a little bit before it's on to the next thing.

i think the same sort of logic that was used in the column could be applied to having only one kid or having more. sometimes difficult situations happen, such as miscarriage, fertility issues, etc. that prohibit and/or prolong the time between kids. in js and my situation, we've been pregnant three times and have one happy, healthy pbs. the other two angels are watching over us and waiting for us in heaven.

i guess what i mean is that people with more that one kid should be a little empathetic, putting themselves in the other persons shoes, and be careful about the way they phrase things. i guess i'm still thinking about what was said over a month ago (maybe i'm still a little sensitive...). i should really let it go. so in a way it all ties together and it comes down to time management.