getting back to "normal"

over the weekend we did some "normal" things as a family. we did the weekly cleaning and straightening of the apartment, some laundry, grocery shopping, dinner out with friends, went to church. some things were out of the ordinary but are becoming more normal all the time, such as looking at houses, going to a park to have pictures taken, riding a train and a carousel.

js and i were talking about some stuff and came to the conclusion that we're still adjusting to life after law school with a toddler in tow. it's a pretty big adjustment really. we went from being a couple on the east coast to living as roommates who said good morning and good night to each other for three years to having a baby and feeling like a single parent at times on the west coast to becoming a family back on the east coast. we're not just adjusting to life in a new part of the country but also trying to get reacquainted and figuring out how to be a couple again..

what ever anybody says about law school not changing you, they are wrong! law school changes and effects all who are involved, the students, girlfriends/spouses/significant others, even the kids. luckily pbs didn't know any different since he was born three days before js' final semester started. there was a group of girlfriends/spouses/significant others that called ourselves "law school widows" because our other halves were always studying either at home or in the library. we had to have that support system to get through. we didn't get together very often but knew we could call or email or facebook just to vent if needed.

now after three years of being roommates, we're finding it challenging to figure out who we are as a couple and a family. so while doing things like going to the park, grocery store, etc. may seem like simple every day things to most people, for us it feels good to be doing something "normal". js and i are getting reacquainted and starting feel more "normal" too. pbs just goes about his "normal" business of pulling all of his toys out and all of his and some of our books off the shelves. it feels good to feel almost "normal" again.